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Real Talk
Real Talk |

A candid, quick, and easy read, by women's mindset coach, Michell Pulliam! Filled with everyday, practical tips for building and maintaining strong, healthy relationships and marriages (even after divorce). If you're not yet in a relationship, this book will help you get prepared. If you're in a great relationship, it will encourage and enhance it. If your relationship needs help ... Real Talk is for you. Preview and purchase your copy above.


Inside you’ll find out: 

  • Why making your home a haven is a must. 

  • Why you should deal with your insecurities before they deal with you. 

  • What you're probably doing that's draining your relationships. 

  • The number one way to get what you want out of your marriage. 

  • How to avoid the red flags that keep you in relationship ruts. 

  • Why you shouldn't sit there and die if your marriage/relationship isn't working. 

Marriages and relationships take work–sometimes hard work–but as with anything, what you put into it, is what you'll get out of it. If you work hard for your relationships, they'll work hard for you. 


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Read an excerpt here . . .

TIP #9


With every fiber of your being, don’t become familiar with your spouse by taking them for granted.


     This trap is easy to fall into. We all have done it, and if we haven’t, we probably will. Not that we do it intentionally–well, at least not most of us–but as the old adage goes… "familiarity breeds contempt." Simply put, the closer you get to or the longer you've known someone or something... it will eventually lead to a loss of respect for them/it.

     Wives, it’s easy to take for granted when your husband works hard to provide for you and the family, buys you gifts, etc. You should never find yourself complaining about what you don’t have. Husbands, sometimes it’s easy to forget to appreciate when your wife cooks and cleans. Don’t just throw dishes in the sink or leave your things throughout the house because you know she’s going to pick them up.

     We must also be careful not to make the mistake of being more eager and willing to do something for someone else than we are for our own spouse. For instance men, you shouldn't volunteer to go over and help move your neighbor, Ms. So and So's, couch, and your wife's armoire–she's been asking you to move to the bedroom since last summer–is still sitting in the garage. Women, don’t offer to bake your famous lemon pound cake for your boss, Mr. So and So, because it's his favorite, but not once think to bake one for your own husband. It's called a lack of consideration! I’m not saying you shouldn’t do for others, just make sure you’re taking care of business at home first.

     Men, contrary to popular belief… chivalry is not dead. My husband still opens doors for me and won't hesitate to give me the side-eye if I somehow forget to let him. Yes, we live in a society where women are more independent than ever before, but ladies, please let them be a gentleman for you if they’re willing to. It means they still have respect for a lady–something that is slowly declining in our society.

     My husband says it best. Familiarity is when you get a new car, you clean it constantly, you make sure no one leaves anything in it, you keep the tank filled, etc. But as time goes on, eventually, weeks go by before you even think about washing it. You drop fries and chicken bones in the seats. You leave trash on the floor. You get my point? You don’t even realize you’re doing it. Why? Because you’ve gotten comfortable and you start to take it for granted.

     Familiarity makes you think of someone or something as being common… and we never want to do that, especially with our mate. We should always hold them in high regard. We do it with everything in our lives; our stuff, our job, our loved ones, our worship, and, sadly, with God. When you notice yourself falling into this trap, regroup and ask those you've taken for granted and God for forgiveness and make it right.

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*If you have questions on relationships, marriage, divorce, parenting, family, women's issues or personal growth, please send me an email by filling out the contact form on the "Contact" page.* 

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